Connectivity as a Future Key

Yearly Roadmap

Hunter in the Forest, Painting by Caspar David Friedrich

Last night, my pillows and cushions looked extremely squeezed and out-of-shape. Whereas the room had a mellow mood, the warm lights reflected opposite the mirror wall, and everything was subtle except for the pillows and cushions. They were exhausted and somewhat frustrated. The reason was pretty obvious; I sat on them for the entire evening and almost didn’t care about their shape or aestheticism. But that is not the entire story. I gave them the fluff with the hitting method, tried to make them look decent, and finally changed their covers to avoid the grumpy-looking creases. Then they looked perfect. I could manage to deal with my mistake and that was easy.

I can take pride in saying that this story is very much relatable. That happens every now and then in any household. We correct them and move on. But we don’t keep the guilt for years with us like, “Oh gosh, I messed things up on that day! Or, I was horrible to my house that month.” Right?

That is our regular point of view and our societal lookout that these things can be managed easily. On the contrary, if we look into ourselves, then things are difficult, unmanageable, and full of unbundled guilt and dissatisfaction. We remember dates of our failures, our fights, or even our small mistakes. We nod, but we do not dare to forget or move on. Those little poky spikes stay on.

Every New Year, we ought to see things in a little new way. Let’s be very frank. These approaches aren’t organic; they are quite well designed by the famous pop culture. Nevertheless, we all gladly welcome the new year and new approaches. Perhaps this is the perfect opportunity to look back on the past year. We have a bunch of things that should get clarified before the new rushes. It is important to understand the real meaning of personal connectivity with your own self. It can be called a mutual understanding between the past and future selves. What you take and what you leave behind—this work is not a social-media hack, and does not it need public validation. It is personal.

“What you leave behind”-these things need a proper and honest closure from your side. This work should not burden you in the future. The spikes should get the blunt end from your side. You can ask yourself these questions, “Do I need to go back to that bad experience?” Or, “How long should I keep them with me?” Or, “What value will that past memory give me in the next phase?” Try to be straightforward and answer them in one or two words. Embrace simplicity. And for the happy ones, don’t ask any questions; just grab those happy memories with you. When you have everything in hand then connect them as a key to the New Year. Jot down what worked for you and what didn’t. It is the silent self-assertive mindset development work. When something doesn’t look well-versed, you need to pick up that wand to redesign it exquisitely. We all have memories in hand, and this biggest advantage needs proper direction towards the next stage. I call that work Ina*.

This work is quite patchy, but it is collecting the right stones for the new construction.

(*In Sanskrit, Ina (इन).—a. means determined or anything that is powerful.)